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The Power of Sacred Feminine Friendships

Meet Adair Cates

Adair Cates, one of my very dear friends, is a mom of twin girls, XCHANGE facilitator, Conscious Leadership trainer, and coach passionate about doing the inner work to be our best selves. Adair has designed and facilitated thousands of one-on-one and group conversations to unlock potential, promote well-being and accelerate sustained change.  Using the strengths-based XCHANGE approach, Adair has led everything from team engagement events in organizations like Microsoft and Meta (Facebook) to online TedX gatherings, multi-day women’s retreats, and organization-wide Conscious Leadership development trainings. She’s a master experience designer and facilitator and a certified Heartmath Resilience Trainer with 15+ years of experience in adult education, leadership development, and mindfulness. She is the author of two self-development books, Live with Intention and Fully Engaged.

In this episode, I talked with Adair Cates, my dear friend, about living life on life’s terms and how she has moved through and been healing her nervous system, body, and mind after experiencing incredible loss. We often discuss spiritual and energy practices that help us stay regulated, resourced, and grounded. One of the biggest learnings on both parts is slowing down. Adair reminds us that we can attract instead of hustle and that relationships are more than just getting shit done.

Regulating Your Nervous System

Adair sadly lost her co-parenting partner and father to her twin daughters two years ago. She dealt with a degenerative eye condition that had her stop driving and other daily activities. Learning to regulate her nervous system was crucial to handling the grief, stressor, and loss as a mom to two young girls. Adair talked about the healing effects of techniques like breathwork, meditation, kundalini yoga, and other self-care practices promoting nervous system regulation.

Giving Yourself Space To Have All Your Feelings

One of the gifts from so much grief and loss was learning to give herself the space to experience and have all of her feelings. This is an excellent reminder for us that rather than running away, numbing out, or trying to avoid upsetting feelings, we want to learn how to create a compassionate space to feel whatever it is your feeling. Cultivating a kind and loving space for yourself can make all the difference in your healing journey, whether you’re experiencing loss, grief, or a challenge.

How Curiosity Can Heal

One aspect of healing that so many overlooks is the power of curiosity. I teach this in my spiritual life coaching certification, and we discussed the healing aspect of questions because questions unlock new possibilities and affirmations. An example might be to ask yourself amidst a challenging time, ‘How might this be a blessing’? By embracing a curious mindset, Adair started to change how she viewed her eye diagnosis, new life circumstances, and life changes.

Sacred feminine friendships are all about authentic connections nourishing the soul and creating space for deep empathy, vulnerability, unconditional support, and love. I pray you also find sacred feminine friendships where you can grow together, share heartbreaks and celebrations, and be your most authentic self.

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This stunning free toolset is a 7-day workbook (25 pages full) of powerful mindset practices, grounding meditations (and audio), a new beautiful time management system and template to set your personalized schedule for your best productivity, a personalized energy assessment, and so much more. It was designed to specifically help you uplevel your routine and self-care habits for success so you can radiate and become your ‘You-est You’. These tools are some of Julie’s best practices used with hundreds of her clients to help you feel more confident, clear, and connected to your best self so that you feel inspired to take on the world.

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Sacred Connection

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