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How To Be Loving with Danielle LaPorte

Meet Danielle LaPorte 

Danielle LaPorte is a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” The former director of a future studies think tank in Washington, DC, where she managed a team creating global scenarios, she now speaks about the intelligence of the heart. 


Her most recent book, How To Be Loving: When Your Heart Is Breaking Open and Our World Is Waking Up, is also an Audiobook + eBook with a companion deck and journal––to be released in October 2022. Danielle is also the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, and White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support.


Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leaders Program, with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses. Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay-what-you-choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit Marianne Williamson refers to Danielle “as a bright light.” V (formerly known as Eve Ensler) calls her “a force field of energy, wonder, humor, and love.” Her charities of choice are Ally Global Foundation, helping survivors of human trafficking to rebuild their lives (@allyglobal), Trees Sisters’Sisters’ reforestation projects (@treesisters_official), and VDay, a movement to end violence against women and girls (vdayorg). Danielle LaPorte lives in Vancouver, BC. You can find her on most places on social media @daniellelaporte.


This book is so incredibly wise, and you’ll want to listen more than once. We discussed Danielle’s newest book, How To Be Loving, published by Sounds True, in great depth especially focusing on the tricky parts we often don’t accept, allow or embrace. Put on your seatbelt and get ready for a powerful journey within…

Loving The Ego

The old way of viewing the ego is to see it as something to banish, get rid of, override or overcome. I loved Danielle LaPorte’s approach and her focus on loving it all, including your ego. Yes, your ego needs and deserves love too. As she said, “I created it. And as the mother of it all, I am responsible for loving and caring for every aspect of myself.” Danielle does this by telling her ego that she’s not leaving or abandoning this part of herself, and as she said, ”I got you.” This means having a conversation with ourselves that is loving, compassionate, and unconditional. This means loving your insecurities and anything you wish you could change. Learn to love it as it is. Accept it as it is. Thank this part of you, as it brings the opportunity to love yourself even more. Woah, that’s a big reframe if I’ve ever seen one. Try it, and let me know what you think and feel. What is it like to truly call in love for every single aspect of yourself?

Self-Improvement Gone Bad

The issue for many of us steeped in the self-improvement world is the incessant desire to constantly evolve, awaken and become enlightened. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to grow, but this non-stop desire can actually be the ego, or the spiritual ego, incognito. Underneath the striving is this belief that you need to do these things to be worthy in God’s eyes. Danielle LaPorte explains a better and more loving way to see this. You were born whole. This is liberating because it means you don’t have to push, strive and work hard for worthiness. You are already worthy because you were born. In reality, what we’re also talking about is the energy from which you’re coming. It’s more energizing to come from a celebratory focus versus striving. But in the end, self-compassion is the whole point. Be compassionate to everyone, including yourself. You can do this by identifying with your light and heart. Over and over again. 

Power Redefined

I love how Danielle La Porte talks about and explains receptivity. In essence, the way that we receive the cues from the Universal mind is through receptivity. The way to being receptive is through stillness and calming down your nervous system, mind, and overall being. Silence and stillness become your best allies as they help you to slow down and tap into the universal intelligence waiting for you to pay attention. As you connect to your divine downloads, you tap into a power that is beyond your mind, ego, and limited understanding. This is power redefined and it starts with being receptive. As Danielle said, “the light WANTS to come in.” We then need to learn to pause, be our own guru, and allow for the light to come in. 

The Secret To It All

The most important ingredient not to be overlooked is the power of forgiveness. Here are a few powerful questions to ponder as they relate to forgiveness:

  1. Who can you forgive today?
  2. What would it look like to forgive them?
  3. How would it feel in your body, mind, and soul to fully forgive them?

Grab your journal and pen and start tuning in and writing. There’s euphoria waiting for you from forgiveness. 

Final Thoughts

Danielle LaPorte explains how to be loving is more than just a concept, it begins by confronting the tricky parts like loving the ego. If you want to learn more you can pick up a copy of How to Be Loving today. 




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