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How to Stop Beating Yourself Up with Julie Reisler

Meet Julie Reisler

Julie Reisler is a master Life Designer coach with over ten years of coaching experience and a master’s degree in health & wellness coaching. Julie is the host and founder of the You-est You Podcast, with over 230+ episodes, and is the founder of the School of Sacredology, a big-hearted community for individuals looking to live from their heart and soul and go from fear to faith. Julie has been featured in Forbes magazine, MindBodyGreen, The Chopra Center, and Thrive Global. She is also a prominent teacher and guide on the popular app Insight Timer and is on the faculty at Georgetown University in their coaching program. To learn more about Julie and how she might support you on your You-est You journey, go to


Welcome to one of the kindest, most big-hearted, and loving communities around! I am so excited you’re here with me. I have loved recording these solo episodes and am hoping they add value, meaning, and impact in your life, and remind you that you are definitely not alone in overcoming inner struggles and challenges on the journey of being your You-est You. If you’re listening to this episode, my hunch is that you might have also struggled with self-bullying and being crappy to yourself. I share very openly and honestly my own challenges with healing past hurts and upsetting experiences that led me down a dark tunnel of attacking and bullying myself. I know that what happens on the inside, in our inner world, is always reflected in our outer world. If we want less upset and drama, we must do the inner work of healing and connecting with the parts of us that are still hurt. I share my own feel to heal process and that of the Inner Bonding workbook so that you can start feeling more grounded, healed, and aligned within yourself. I hope it resonates at the deepest level.


Why We Bully Ourselves

So often, we have buried trauma. Whether that is trauma with a big or little T, it doesn’t matter. The trauma that happened in our childhood where we didn’t properly heal because we didn’t possess the emotional intelligence to cope with the situation is carried into our adulthood. It’s not our fault. We just weren’t taught how to deal with our emotions in a healthy way. Those same children grow up to be adults who don’t understand how to digest our emotions properly. Instead of dealing with them, we stuff them or abandon ourselves, disconnecting from what needs healing. What we have learned is that this leads to physical illness and addiction. Instead of processing our feelings, we make ourselves sick or create unhealthy relationships with things like food, spending, or alcohol. And when we can’t process our emotions but feel threatened, upset, or overwhelmed, we attack ourselves—faulting ourselves for not being more capable, not good enough.


Stop Beating Yourself Up

In this episode, I talk about how to go within and have a ritual for tuning into the hurt and pain and sitting with it so you can learn to stop beating yourself up. When fear sneaks up, making us feel lesser than, it often triggers a response from childhood when we felt not good enough or compared to things that made us feel lesser than. Judging ourselves for falling short was something we trained ourselves to do from a young age. But it is essential to feel it to heal it and doing the necessary inner work. So sitting with these feelings as they come up in the present day and taking a hard look at where you are trying to deny your emotions is essential. You need to tap into that aspect of yourself and honor that part to adapt your mindset. And when that is done, invite your Higher Power in to be with you. To give you strength, comfort and healing.



I love pulling cards from my You-est You deck and today’s card was gratitude. This was perfect as I discussed how feeling gratitude for the lesson of the situation is part of the healing, how feeling gratitude for the experience and learning from the self-bullying so that you can move forward towards forgiveness and being more kind to yourself. 

Final Thoughts

It is so important to stop beating yourself up. No one likes a bully, so it is crucial to do the work to end the self-bullying. If you wouldn’t do it to someone else, it isn’t right to do it to yourself. I touch more on self-bullying and imposter syndrome in the book I am currently working on, Who Does She Think She Is. I think you are going to love it. If you are interested in the You-est You deck, you can get the printed box of cards or pdf printable version at

I’d love to know what you experienced and got from this episode. Please share with me in the You-est You Facebook community or email us anytime to share your insights, transformation, and miracles at


Sacred Connection

As always, this community is a sacred, safe place built on love and acceptance. It was created to help you evolve and expand into your highest self. Please share your wisdom, comments, and thoughts. I love hearing from you and learning how you are being your truest, you-est you. Please join us in our Facebook group The You-est You Community for Soul Seekers


Join host Julie Reisler, author and multi-time TEDx speaker, each week to learn how you can tap into your best self and become your You-est You to achieve inner peace, happiness, and success at a deeper level! Tune in to hear powerful, inspirational stories and expert insights from entrepreneurs, industry thought leaders, and extraordinary human beings that will help to transform your life. Julie also shares a-ha moments that have shaped her life and career and discusses key concepts from her book Get a PhD in YOU.


Here’s to your being your you-est you!

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